We can easily understand the concept of resilience, but to truly become resilient, it must be practiced….
It happened again last week. Following my keynote presentation in northern Idaho for a healthcare group, a gentleman approached me as I made my way to the book-signing table:
“What I heard throughout your talk tonight seemed primarily based on resilience. Do you think that is something that can be taught?”
There it was again. The “R” word.
Here’s the deal when it comes to resilience:
No, you can’t learn to become more resilient.
Sure, you can get a better understanding of the concept of resilience by studying it. But you can study it as much as you like; that alone won’t make you more resilient.
To become more resilient, you practice resilience.
You don’t feel like going to the gym, so you don’t go. Will this make you more resilient to the weight of the weights on your next visit? No, absolutely not. Lifting weights is all about becoming more resilient.
So when faced with the decision of whether or not to go to the gym, a person practicing resilience goes.
Your boss has this annoying habit of asking you to submit reports in the form of an excel spreadsheet.
You hate excel….
You’re not very good at it.
So when he hands it back to you every time for the mistakes to be corrected, you fume inside, all bent out of shape on what a pedantic, demanding, $%@#*%*@ he is…
Hint: This is not leading you towards resilience…
What if you decided that it wasn’t good enough to be lacking in this skill, and took it upon yourself to increase your skill level with excel?
What if you turned yourself into an excel superstar so that you became the go-to person on your team when it came to spreadsheets?
Would that make you more, or less valuable?
Would that make you more, or less resilient in terms of weathering a storm in which people are being let go?
You become more resilient through each and every decision you make, and each and every action you take. It’s got nothing to do with what you know, and everything to do with what you do…
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