So the *$#& has just hit the fan and you need to be more resilient.
As I’ve said before, it’s too late.
Resilience is like a bank account.
You only have what you have.
That’s been my stance for a while now, but this recent article (link below) from The New Yorker has me rethinking this:
George Bonanno is a clinical psychologist.
He believes that it’s in times of adversity, or crisis, that we’re presented with an opportunity to build resilience, by reframing the experience…
That it’s precisely in that reframing that we wire (or rewire) our brains to become more resilient, and that surprisingly (or not), the foundational tool we use to reframe is one of my favorites; PERCEPTION.
“Events are not traumatic until we experience them as traumatic.”
George doesn’t refer to events as being “traumatic events”. He calls them potentially traumatic events (PTE’s) because as we know, events affect people in very different ways.
Same event, very different outcome for different people.
The same event, perceived differently…
So, it turns out we can learn to become more resilient.
By questioning how we see…
Check out the full article here (5 minute read)
This doesn’t mean it’s not a good idea to practice resilience in the meantime. By practicing, we’re training our minds and bodies to grow, which means it takes more adversity to put us into crisis mode in the first place.